Love is a unique language. Expressed by many – understood by few. Love is ubiquitous, but the way in which it is expressed is not always easily discernible. People express love in their own, unique and beautiful ways. Just like a spoken language has nuanced accents and variations, so does the language of love. These differences vary from person to person. However, there are some languages of love that we (at HIL) agree upon.
Love Language 1: Quality Time
Who doesn’t love it when your family members and friends take out time from their busy schedules to spend time with you. Quality time does not necessarily mean being physically together, but mentally. In the age of social media, people who are physically together, may not be mentally together and people who are not physically together may be mentally together.
Love Language 2: Giving>Getting
Getting gifts certainly does give you happiness, however, it’s usually ephemeral. Giving back to society gives you longer-lasting happiness. Don’t believe me? Join a social service group and volunteer for community service and you’ll understand. The joy that you receive from giving back to society and making a positive difference in the life of someone else will be eternal.
Love Language 3: It’s the thought that counts
Telling your loved ones that your thoughts are with them even if you aren’t physically, shows that you genuinely care. However insignificant or imperfect the act may be, always remember, it the thought (kindness) behind it that truly matters. I treasure thoughtful, personalized gifts over generic (materially better) ones because the thought behind the gift gives it its true value.
Love Language 4: Physical Contact
Who doesn’t love hugs/kisses and other such intimate forms of affection? Touching not only shows you care but also increases the flow of pleasure, (by) producing endorphins, which are released into the nervous system. According to a Stanford University report, several studies are showing significant benefits in wound healing, pain and anxiety. HIL Tip: Go and give your friend/family a big hug today, and see the difference.
Love Language 5: Validation
Mark Twain said, ‘I can live for two months on a good compliment’. Could you? Let’s face it, most humans are imperfect/insecure and need validation to stay motivated. Validation shows that you are empathetic and you recognize the thoughts and ideas of others. Sincere validation goes a long way; however subtle or implicit it may be. Can you recall receiving a compliment that kept you smiling until the next day?
These love languages are only some of the many love languages that exist. It is important to discover yours and your partners love language to strengthen your relationship. We at HIL urge you to test these languages on your friends and family and comment below whether they fit in one of the five categories. If, not feel free to suggest other love languages in comments section below.